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Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Healing the Inner Child With Greater Self Awareness, Compassion and Mindful Self Love
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The narcissist’s charm is so compelling that it can make you question your reality. 💔 Gaslighting is their weapon of choice. You might recall a conversation one way, only for them to insist it never happened like that. This leaves you doubting yourself, trapped in cognitive dissonance, torn between disbelief and confusion. Over time, this manipulation erodes your sense of reality, leaving you lost in a maze of emotional turmoil. It’s disorienting—and it’s by design.
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How Narcissists Twist Reality Gaslighting and Its Emotional Toll
The narcissist’s charm is so compelling that it can make you question your reality. 💔 Gaslighting is their weapon of choice. You might recall a conversation one way, only for them to insist it never happened like that. This leaves you doubting yourself, trapped in cognitive dissonance, torn between disbelief and confusion. Over time, this manipulation erodes your sense of reality, leaving you lost in a maze of emotional turmoil. It’s disorienting—and it’s by design.
Narcissistic abuse sneaks into your life, robbing you of self-worth like a thief in the night. 🕶️ It often begins with love bombing—grand gestures and overwhelming affection designed to captivate your heart and mind. But once they feel secure in your devotion, their true colors emerge. Manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional blackmail take center stage, keeping you second-guessing yourself. You start walking on eggshells, adjusting your behavior to avoid their wrath.
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Everything You Need To Know About Narcissistic Abuse (So Far)
Narcissistic abuse sneaks into your life, robbing you of self-worth like a thief in the night. 🕶️ It often begins with love bombing—grand gestures and overwhelming affection designed to captivate your heart and mind. But once they feel secure in your devotion, their true colors emerge. Manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional blackmail take center stage, keeping you second-guessing yourself. You start walking on eggshells, adjusting your behavior to avoid their wrath.
The next time you feel overwhelmed, pause. ✋ Take a deep breath. A calm mind is the only one capable of deep, intentional breathing. Ask yourself: 🧠 How do I feel? 👤 Where do I feel it in my body? Slow down your thoughts, quiet your mind, and reflect: ✔️ What can I control? ❌ What can’t I control? ✨ How do I want to feel when this situation resolves? For adult children of alcoholics and trauma survivors, reconnecting with your body is essential. Your body holds the keys to understanding your emotions. This is where healing begins. 🌱
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Simple Trick to Process Hard Emotions (Works Every Time)
The next time you feel overwhelmed, pause. ✋ Take a deep breath. A calm mind is the only one capable of deep, intentional breathing. Ask yourself: 🧠 How do I feel? 👤 Where do I feel it in my body? Slow down your thoughts, quiet your mind, and reflect: ✔️ What can I control? ❌ What can’t I control? ✨ How do I want to feel when this situation resolves? For adult children of alcoholics and trauma survivors, reconnecting with your body is essential. Your body holds the keys to understanding your emotions. This is where healing begins. 🌱
The fifth personality that can emerge is highly, highly controlling. This is not the most trusting person. This is somebody who cannot feel safe unless they are in charge. This is somebody who wants to control you, who wants to control where you go, and who wants to control what you think. This is somebody who will do things to feel in control of the situation. This is somebody who felt out of control as a child. Maybe there was incarceration in the family, or maybe there was alcoholism or addiction, or maybe there was a tremendous amount of financial struggle in the family system. #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodMemories #TraumaSupport #MentalHealthSupport
Understanding personality types that emerge from childhood trauma
The fifth personality that can emerge is highly, highly controlling. This is not the most trusting person. This is somebody who cannot feel safe unless they are in charge. This is somebody who wants to control you, who wants to control where you go, and who wants to control what you think. This is somebody who will do things to feel in control of the situation. This is somebody who felt out of control as a child. Maybe there was incarceration in the family, or maybe there was alcoholism or addiction, or maybe there was a tremendous amount of financial struggle in the family system. #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodMemories #TraumaSupport #MentalHealthSupport
Another personality type that evolves from childhood trauma is the perfectionist – the super super super super overachiever – the person who is focused on doing the best job that they possibly can. Unfortunately, this is someone who thinks in black and white, who is afraid of making a mistake. You have learned that the slightest thing you don't do right, the slightest thing that has the potential to bring you criticism, will net you a very negative result. So you've also been conditioned to think that, well, if I'm perfect, I could avoid criticism and abandonment. | Read More Here>> 5 Personality Types That Emerge from Childhood Trauma #EmotionalWellbeing #SupportAndRecovery #ChildhoodHealing #TherapyForTrauma #ResilienceBuilding #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodMemories #TraumaSupport
Understanding 'The Perfectionist' Childhood Trauma Personality Type
Another personality type that evolves from childhood trauma is the perfectionist – the super super super super overachiever – the person who is focused on doing the best job that they possibly can. Unfortunately, this is someone who thinks in black and white, who is afraid of making a mistake. You have learned that the slightest thing you don't do right, the slightest thing that has the potential to bring you criticism, will net you a very negative result. So you've also been conditioned to think that, well, if I'm perfect, I could avoid criticism and abandonment. | Read More Here>> 5 Personality Types That Emerge from Childhood Trauma #EmotionalWellbeing #SupportAndRecovery #ChildhoodHealing #TherapyForTrauma #ResilienceBuilding #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodMemories #TraumaSupport
#3 - Anxious Personality Another personality that emerges is this anxious personality. When you have developed this type of personality, what you learned in childhood was that you have to think your way through things… that you can't ever let go. You have always to keep your eye on the ball. You have to stay hyper-vigilant. You have to stay in your head and anticipate when mom's going to lose her crap or when dad's going to lose her his crap or when your brother's going to fly off the handle or when your uncle is going to walk in the door drunk. So you're always trying to think your way through things. LisaARomano.com | #EmotionalWellbeing #SupportAndRecovery #ChildhoodHealing #TherapyForTrauma #ResilienceBuilding #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodMemories
5 Personality Types That Emerge from Childhood Trauma
#3 - Anxious Personality Another personality that emerges is this anxious personality. When you have developed this type of personality, what you learned in childhood was that you have to think your way through things… that you can't ever let go. You have always to keep your eye on the ball. You have to stay hyper-vigilant. You have to stay in your head and anticipate when mom's going to lose her crap or when dad's going to lose her his crap or when your brother's going to fly off the handle or when your uncle is going to walk in the door drunk. So you're always trying to think your way through things. LisaARomano.com | #EmotionalWellbeing #SupportAndRecovery #ChildhoodHealing #TherapyForTrauma #ResilienceBuilding #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodMemories
5 personality types can emerge from childhood trauma. One personality type that can emerge is the 'caretaker' or helper. This is somebody whose sense of self and sense of safety comes from how well they are able to take care of someone else. Now, if you are a helper, then you have codependency traits as well. You are someone whose sense of identity is tied to, “I have to help people.” If I help them, then I can avoid the trauma of being afraid or feeling like everything's going to explode. #ChildhoodTrauma #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealthAwareness #BreakTheCycle #InnerChildHealing
Five ways that our personality is shaped by childhood trauma.
5 personality types can emerge from childhood trauma. One personality type that can emerge is the 'caretaker' or helper. This is somebody whose sense of self and sense of safety comes from how well they are able to take care of someone else. Now, if you are a helper, then you have codependency traits as well. You are someone whose sense of identity is tied to, “I have to help people.” If I help them, then I can avoid the trauma of being afraid or feeling like everything's going to explode. #ChildhoodTrauma #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealthAwareness #BreakTheCycle #InnerChildHealing
#1: The Achiever | If you have childhood trauma, you may develop an achiever personality type. This is somebody who feels like to feel safe they have to keep doing. They have to keep active. They have to keep achieving. They have to keep busy. This is part of us running away from that anxious feeling – it's almost like an illusion – catch me if you can. As long as I keep it moving I'm not going to feel this trauma response. Read More from Lisa A. Romano here >>> #ResilienceBuilding #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodMemories #TraumaSupport #MentalHealthSupport
5 Personality Types That Emerge from Childhood Trauma
#1: The Achiever | If you have childhood trauma, you may develop an achiever personality type. This is somebody who feels like to feel safe they have to keep doing. They have to keep active. They have to keep achieving. They have to keep busy. This is part of us running away from that anxious feeling – it's almost like an illusion – catch me if you can. As long as I keep it moving I'm not going to feel this trauma response. Read More from Lisa A. Romano here >>> #ResilienceBuilding #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodMemories #TraumaSupport #MentalHealthSupport
Breakthrough Life Coach : Lisa A. Romano | Those of us who feel like we're on a quest to get to the other side of this trauma, those of us who are willing to put in the work to heal from childhood trauma, when we recognize that becoming curious is sort of like the first stage, begin to ask ourselves questions like, why am I this way? Hopefully, you will discover that, dear one, it's not your fault. It could have been no other way. Childhood trauma shapes the way we turn out. It shapes our personality, and it is neurological. It is physiological, and it is psychological. It literally could be no other way. #HealingFromChildhoodTrauma #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodHealing #TraumaRecovery #InnerChildHealing #BreakTheCycle #EmotionalHealing #TraumaAwareness
5 Personality Types That Emerge from Childhood Trauma
Breakthrough Life Coach : Lisa A. Romano | Those of us who feel like we're on a quest to get to the other side of this trauma, those of us who are willing to put in the work to heal from childhood trauma, when we recognize that becoming curious is sort of like the first stage, begin to ask ourselves questions like, why am I this way? Hopefully, you will discover that, dear one, it's not your fault. It could have been no other way. Childhood trauma shapes the way we turn out. It shapes our personality, and it is neurological. It is physiological, and it is psychological. It literally could be no other way. #HealingFromChildhoodTrauma #OvercomingTrauma #ChildhoodHealing #TraumaRecovery #InnerChildHealing #BreakTheCycle #EmotionalHealing #TraumaAwareness
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Mental Resilience: The Key to Inner Emotional Balance
LisaARomano.com | Mental resilience begins by understanding these key ideas. As a child, I was programmed/brainwashed to worry about what might happen next. I can't remember one day when I felt carefree as a child. The constant worry of when the next shoe would drop was always in my mind. I would observe other children and feel a deep pang in my heart. Why couldn't I play like that? I would wonder, as layers of shame were layered on. Like all children do, I assumed my parents didn't show emotional concern for me because there was something unworthy about me. #mentalhealthtips #adultchildrenofalcoholics #emotionaltriggers #healingcodependency #codependency #cyclebreaker #emotionalhealing #innerchildhealing #innerpeace #emotionalregulationtips
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Why Inner Child Healing and Recovery is so Difficult to Overcome
A Pathway to Emotional Freedom | Lisa A. Romnao | Your divine temple loves you so much that this flashback and memory recall system worked so well that your body floods instantly with the same feelings, chemistry, and hormone production as it did at the time of past traumatic experiences. The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program is a groundbreaking approach to reintergrating the inner child into your conscious awareness, beyond the valid subconscious reactionay systems that become triggered when events of the past are being remembered. Learn more at LISAAROMANO.COM >>> #SelfLoveJourney #ReclaimYourLife #BoundariesNotWalls #HealingIsPossible #EmpoweredSurvivor
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Ignoring Narcissists: A Mastered Inner Power
Lisa A. Romano | Blog Post | Cognitive Dissonance | Healing From Narcissistic Abuse | Let’s explore the inception of thought, where mental images and inner dialogue first emerge. This realm is purely nonphysical, emotional, and vibrational. Before thoughts take shape, feelings manifest. From these feelings, blueprints are etched into the subconscious mind, much like an engineer storing plans for a future structure. #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #HealingFromNarcissism #SurvivorOfNarcissism #ThriveAfterAbuse #NarcissistFree #SelfLoveJourney #ReclaimYourLife #BoundariesNotWalls #HealingIsPossible #EmpoweredSurvivor
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