Showing posts with label writerlyness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label writerlyness. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Blogging Should Never Make Anyone Cry

Had an attack of the PMT stabbies yesterday, so I apologise if I was harsh about the changing face of Mummy Blogging in this country. However, in my defence, I'm watching a truly nasty bit of judgemental bitchiness unfolding at the moment, and have seen similar incidents over and over in recent months. Three of my favourite blogs have been deleted by their owners in recent weeks, and I'm reading (and relating to) post after post from women who are feeling invisible and overlooked, doubting themselves and their writing, and having to justify having an opinion that isn't politically correct or you know, honest. I'm also reading posts ridiculing these women.

Seriously, blogging should never make anyone cry.

All this has made me think about this blog, and after going around in circles and ranting to Hubs and Mum at length I've decided...

 Not to change anything.

 Yeah. And Lo There Was A Miracle.

It'll get more book orientated around here, as publication dates draw near (thus far I've got 'maybe December'!!) But the usual tragic tales of burnt cakes, cliff-hanger descriptions of gardening, and eye-rollings about pretty much everything will continue.

 So as you were dear reader. As you were.

Yesterday I was also having an attack of the Told-You-Sos with regards to the Very Famous Author who, at the start of my publishing journey, generously informed me that E-publishing is a total waste of time, and that I was doomed to failure, and should just give up and stop wasting my time with a dream that'd never seriously become a reality.

I have an info-graphic for you my dear...

  E-book Nation
Brought to you by: OnlineUniversities.com

And this, my friend, is just the beginning.
Told you.
Heh :)

Friday, April 27, 2012

Motivation and Commitment in Your Writing Life


Old burblings, reburbled

Below are my notes from a talk by Dr John Barletta, given at the Romance Australia Author Day back in 2010.

They are a bit scatty (sorry), but there is some good information about positive psychology, flow and personality, and his rules to say alive.

Dr Barletta will be talking at the Romance Australia Conference in Brissy in August 2012.  Catch him if you can, you won't regret it. Info here

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Dr John Barletta is a clinical psychologist who came to talk to us about Engagement and Flow in your writing life.  These are my notes from his (rather hurried) talk, and I think they give a few starting points where writers can examine their own motivation (or lack of) to write.
  • The problem with wanting to write, but not following through, is not due to a lack of information, rather it's about motivation and commitment
  • Be careful of the shoulds.  "I should do this," "I should do that," but never actually doing them and getting caught up in the fact you haven't done them.
  • To change from an unmotivated writer to a motivated writer, you will go through the Stages of Change
  • Don't fall into the trap of 'learned helplessness', ie, believing you are helpless and therefore not helping yourself.
  • Referred to Marty Seligman and his positive psychology website 
  • How to thrive
    • Happiness comes from a good life (Eudaimonia) which is made up of
      • a pleasant life - emotion (love) and pleasure
      • engagement - competence and mastery
      • meaningful life - meaning and purpose
  • Flow and Personality
    • Flow - or being 'in the zone' when you write, is where you want to be
    • When you are in the flow you feel tireless, serene, ecstatic (ie outside yourself), immersed and impervious to outside events, have greater creativity, confidence in completion of activity
    • There is a personality type which falls more easily into this state of flow than other types, called the Autotelic personality
      • Autotelic personality has high concentration, persistence, low self-centeredness, high rate of performing actions for an intrinsic reason, ie, I write because I must
    • How to develop an Autotelic personality?
      • Set clear goals
      • Become immersed in the activity - mindfulness training can help with this
      • learn to enjoy the immediate experience and immediate feedback
      • "perfect practice makes perfect"
  • Everyone has (at least) twenty four signature strengths - can take a test for these at Marty Seligman website above.
    • Use those strengths brings happiness
  • Rules to stay alive
    • Learn to retreat and advance from every position you take
    • Guard your impotence as your most valuable weapon, ie, be up front about your limits, use them to say NO
    • Face the fact that you will grow old and die
    • Develop a sense of being
    • Laugh at the absurdity of life

Monday, April 16, 2012

Exciting News: Drive Me To Distraction

My New Years resolutions for this year, made very close to midnight on Twitter, were three things.
  1. That 2012 be my year of writing
  2. That I'd wear nail polish on my toenails
  3. That I'd drink gin
Interestingly, I've stuck to the first one, and totally bombed out on the second two.  Well, I ran out of gin, and am working my way through the alcohol cabinet before I go out and start buying new bottles of anything. I sound like a complete alcoholic now, don't I?

Anyway, without further ado, I'd like to take a deep breath and announce that I've contracted Drive Me To Distraction with Momentum Books, the e-publishing arm of Pan Macmillian.

Which means, I'm going to be a published author again.

OMG, I'm going to be a published author again!!! :D

Its been a long time between novels for me.  

After Secret Intentions was published I was diagnosed with a scorching case of Post-Natal Depression.  I made a decision, at that time, to step back from publishing (hell, I was such a mess I could barely make myself a cup of tea, let alone market a book).  In any case, I found my anti-depressants totally squashed my creativity, and writing took more energy that I had to give. 
I let it go.  
Well, to a degree. I never stopped blogging!  But what I wrote about became what was happening in everyday life. Not fiction.

A year passed.  I found my feet and with the help of a brilliant counsellor and the anti-depressants, I slowly recovered from PND.

Then the wonderful Trisha Telep asked me to write a short story for The Mammoth Book of Special Ops Romance (The Grey Man) and the popularity of that led to a big jump in sales of both Running Scared and Secret Intentions.  The writing spark began to flicker once more.

18 months after my diagnosis, I stopped taking the anti-depressants.  Still wary of putting myself under to much pressure, and dealing with Miss (now) 6, who as it turned out, had Aspergers syndrome, I did not dive right in, but instead started to write.  The stories were stories of my heart; named Drive Me To Distraction, The Bunker, Running With The Hunted and Fat Chance.  They followed no rhyme or reason, or structure or rules.

And then in early 2012 I decided it was time to start submitting again, just to see what would happen.  By mid February I had five full requests from seven query letters, and things were looking pretty exciting.

Which brings us to today.

I have read and signed the contract.  Sent it on its way, and am filled with a huge sense of satisfaction and anticipation.  My story will be out by the end of the year, and I am so excited to be back.  

:)




Sunday, March 25, 2012

Six Sentence Sunday

And the next six sentences of my complete novel Drive Me To Distraction


She knew that it hurt to elbow a person in the nose, but even so, the urge to damage him was unusually persistent. Instead, she zipped her racing overalls up to her neck - heat exhaustion, on this rare hot English summer day, was preferable to Mike indulging in his favourite work-hours pastime of peering down her top.
Snatching her clipboard from her desk, she left the small administration office of Thruxton Motorsport Centre with enough force to make the windows rattle in their cheap aluminium frames.  Outside, the smell of baked tarmac and hot oil hung heavily in the warm still air, soothing like aromatherapy – if you bought into that girly-rubbish, which Alex didn’t. 
She glanced at the clipboard and undid her overalls a couple of inches. Mr. Robert Dryden was the next driver eager to conquer the Thruxton racetrack and attain his Racing Drivers Licence.  


First six here

Part of Six sentence Sunday.

Saturday, December 03, 2011

Writerly Talk - summary and links

Last Thursday night I was honoured to do the end of year talk at the Hawkesbury River Writers Group.  I promised those good folk I'd fling a quick summary up on the blog, and add links to various websites I'd mentioned.

So here it is...
  • With the changes in the traditional print industry (ie move to author self promotion), and the explosion of the e-industry the ‘unpublished’ stage of an authors career is now a vital part of their success – it is not a rite of passage, or something to be endured until ‘your ship comes in’.  It is a busy, active time where you can establish yourself.
  • Am talking about published and unpublished as if there is a line, or a hill, or everest in between the two. These days there is not.  If any one of you chose to, you could be published by tomorrow night.  I don’t recommend you jump in blind, but its there for the taking.
  • E-publishing or self publishing is huge.  With the massive popularity of kindle and other e-readers, millions have access to self-published e-books. There is cult-y following, and agents and editors alike are scouring sites like Smashwords to find new talent. 
  • Amazon’s new imprints are going to be massive and industry changing
  • The unpublished part of your career is absolutely vital –
    • establish yourself,
    • make connections,
    • get your voice out there, ie have a presence online, so that agents and editors can find you
    • learn, about marketing, advertising, self-promotion
      • what works - learn from other's mistakes
      • what you like, what you can handle -
        • I am passionate about... 
      • finding where and how you can promote your books once they are published
Any questions, email me... caitlyn . nicholas @ gmail . com
No spaces

Good luck to all :)

Sunday, July 31, 2011

Worst First Lines - for 2011

The results for the 2011 Bulwer-Lytton Fiction competition for the worst first lines are in.


My favourites are...


Cheryl’s mind turned like the vanes of a wind-powered turbine, chopping her sparrow-like thoughts into bloody pieces that fell onto a growing pile of forgotten memories.
Sue Fondrie
Oshkosh, WI
***
As his small boat scudded before a brisk breeze under a sapphire sky dappled with cerulean clouds with indigo bases, through cobalt seas that deepened to navy nearer the boat and faded to azure at the horizon, Ian was at a loss as to why he felt blue. 
Mike Pedersen
North Berwick, ME 
***
Detective Kodiak plucked a single hair from the bearskin rug and at once understood the grisly nature of the crime: it had been a ferocious act, a real honey, the sort of thing that could polarize a community, so he padded quietly out the back to avoid a cub reporter waiting in the den. 
Joe Wyatt
Amarillo, TX 
***
Convinced that the fabled Lost Treasure of Eggsbury was concealed within the statue of the beloved Sister Mary Francis in the village square, Professor Smithee would steal away in the darkest hour of each night to try to silently chip away at her impervious granite vestments – a vain and fruitless nightly exercise, he well knew, but it was a hard habit to break.
Rodney Reed
Ooltewah, TN
***
You can read the rest of the entries here.
:)







Thursday, June 30, 2011

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

These are always worth keeping in mind...

Elmore Leonard's Ten Rules of Writing

from the New York Times, Writers on Writing Series.

By ELMORE LEONARD

These are rules I’ve picked up along the way to help me remain invisible when I’m writing a book, to help me show rather than tell what’s taking place in the story. If you have a facility for language and imagery and the sound of your voice pleases you, invisibility is not what you are after, and you can skip the rules. Still, you might look them over.

1. Never open a book with weather.

2. Avoid prologues.

3. Never use a verb other than “said” to carry dialogue.

4. Never use an adverb to modify the verb “said” . . .
. . . he admonished gravely.

5. Keep your exclamation points under control.
You are allowed no more than two or three per 100,000 words of prose.

6. Never use the words “suddenly” or “all hell broke loose.”

7. Use regional dialect, patois, sparingly.

8. Avoid detailed descriptions of characters.

9. Don’t go into great detail describing places and things.

10. Try to leave out the part that readers tend to skip.

My most important rule is one that sums up the 10.

If it sounds like writing, I rewrite it.


ooOOoo


Living in ColorLiving in Color by Trish Milburn

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


I really enjoyed this beautifully written, heartwarming and satisfying story.



View all my reviews

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Writerly Wednesday: Stagnating like a chlorine-less swimming pool

Stagnation usually happens around Chapter 5, and occurs when you are not exactly blocked, because you know where you are going with your plot, but you just can't face writing the rest of the book, because its so looooong, and so difficult, and takes so much effort, and... (fill in own excuse here)

Classic symptoms include...

  • Eating (the more chocolatey the better)
  • Wandering around the garden with a cup of tea
  • Moaning, often whilst clutching your head, and doing 'sad eyes' at your husband
  • The internet
    • Facebook obsession ("but I'm just setting up my author page")
    • Forums ("but I'm just getting myself out there")
    • Commenting on things you normally ignore, eg, newspaper articles ("but WHY are they having these slutwalks in WINTER??")
    • Buying things on ebay
    • Spending a lot of time on frivolous pages where you can design things to decorate your blog with...


    • Ranting on Twitter
    • Prettifying your blog 
    • Ranting on Twitter about prettifying your blog
    • Putting every random thought that comes into your head on Twitter/your Blog
  • Spending time with children
  • Unbearable sookiness which morphs quickly into irritability
  • Self-hate and loathing
  • Quitting being a writer FOREVER
  • Being bored, bored, bored with everything under the sun
  • Unnaturally clean house
  • Ringing Mother
  • Filling freezer with 'ready meals'

There are cures for Stagnation (however, you have to motivate yourself to do them, which is the practically impossible and extremely annoying bit)
  • Have a day or two off (careful, it can become weeks, and then you have to re-read what you wrote which leads to a rewrite and then more stagnation)
  • Lock self in room with computer and no internet connection (or tough love, does work after you realise you can't scratch your way through the door)
  • Bribe self to work (rarely works as bribe gets eaten before work done)
  • Change of scene (this does work)
    • Set up new writing nest in inconvenient place (eg kitchen table)
    • Get out of house and write in a cafe (cake helps here)
    • Jot down scene while travelling on train, in car, on cruise around Mediterranean...
  • Write differently (this works too)
    • Write whilst listening to music
    • Handwrite a scene in a notepad
  • Read a really terrible terrible novel (this ignites the indignant 'I can do better than this' response)
  • Set an embarrassingly small goal (say 150 words), achieve it.  Set another small goal, achieve that, repeat. (this works)
But the thing to remember above all, is that most writers stagnate at some point, its not a failing on your part. The trick is not to let it derail you completely.  You can finish this work-in-progress, you can.  I know you can.  Now get off the internet and go and do it.

:)

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Writerly Wednesday; Promotion... its biblical

Today I will keep it short (nooo, you gasp -  I'm not surprised at your surprise btw - I do crap on a lot, even my mother says so).

Anyhoo.

Today I am going to share the golden rule of starting out in promotion and marketing.

Do to others as you would have them do to you.

Matthew 7:12 (yes googled it, you guys know I'm religiously ambivalent), although really Matthew can't entirely take the credit for this quote, everyone has said it, even someone called Sextus the Pythagorean (oh how I adore wikipedia).

I'm not going to thrash this one into the ground, I know, you know what I mean...
  • You want someone to read your books, read theirs and put your positive feedback out there on the internet
  • You want lots of reviews in Amazon or Goodreads, give lots of reviews in Amazon and Goodreads - but if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all
  • You want support via Facebook, get busy on Facebook - and I don't mean mass friending, I mean interacting with people
And so on.

There is a second golden rule that its also worthwhile keeping in mind...

Don't expect it to work.

Yes, what the hell?? you may say.

If you charge in thinking you're going to get something out of every person you support, or give feedback to, people will abandon you in droves.  
Think of that annoying person who only ever calls when they want something, you resent them don't you? Be careful not to be that person.

Happy writing :)

Wednesday, May 04, 2011

Writerly Wednesday; Goal Setting

New comment system? Breathtaking new header banner? Someone is tarting up their blog!  Could something be afoot? Could there be exciting news on Monday?  Tune in then to find out :)

Do you like my teacups?  I was messing about with google drawings last night when I should've been writing the last thousand of my four thousand words of yesterday.  Have plans for an upgraded version involving the ironing board cover (yes, I agree, am even more riveting than usual this morning.)

So, for this Writerly Wednesday (formerly Writing Tuesday), I wanted to blog about goal setting.  As I said I'm pushing for 4,000 words a day at the moment.  It is a lot and it is exhausting.  I'm also blogging, twittering, commenting, gossiping, cooking, cleaning, washing, dressing, trying to make Miss 5 sit still long enough to learn to read AND making sure I drag Miss 6 out of a book at least once a day to eat.  Oh and I have a husband, dog, cat and chickens who occasionally want attention. Not to mention the garden.

I could write something about how I have balance in my life, but it would be a load of crap.  What I do have is a lot of lists so that I remember everything I want/need/should do and/or ignore.  I love a good list.

This is what my writing list looks like at the moment...
  1. Running With The Hunted 
    1. Finished end of May (50,000 words to go), 
    2. Ready for agent by end July
  2. First draft short romance
    1. 50,000 words
    2. Write as part of 50ks in 30 days (which is something Romance Australia run)
    3. Finished end June, 
    4. Ready to pitch by August at RWA conference / or send to agent
  3. Submission for Samhain Olympics anthology story 
    1. 25 - 30,000 words 
    2. Finish end July
    3. Due 1st September
  4. Fat Chance
    1. 100,000 words
    2. Plot & research by September
    3. First draft done end December
  5. Short story for writing competition, or messing about on Smashwords
    1. 15 - 20,000 words
    2. Not taking this too seriously
Lots to do, but just looking at this list makes me feel excited and motivated.  I know where I'm going, I know what I want to achieve.  I know that its up to me to get there.

I cannot stress enough the importance of setting goals when you are writing.  Otherwise you may end up losing momentum or wondering where you are going with it all.

You want to finish a manuscript?

  • Set a date, an achievable date and work towards it. When you fill your daily word count reward yourself, boast on twitter, let me know, tell your mother (but be warned she may be somewhat underwhelmed!).
  • Have a plan about what you want to do with that manuscript when you are finished, be it, find an agent, submit it to Mills&Boon, self publish it.  Cyber stalk the agents you have in mind, the publisher or other self-publishers - its a great way to start getting your name out there.
  • And, always, always, have Plan B, Plan C and Plan D up your sleeve, and put a bit of effort into them as well.  Publishing is a rough businesses and it helps to know where you are going if Plan A does not come off as planned (and that is something I have experienced over and over).
I have a lot of other lists.  A marketing list, a cleaning list, a to do list, a menu/shopping list...  I don't get to what is on any of these lists in one day, and I don't expect to, but I know where I am, what has been done, what must be done and what hasn't been done for weeks.

Oh and speaking of what hasn't been done for weeks... Diminishing Lucy has a comp over on her blog to giveaway a years supply of shower cleaning wipes.  Apparently they are brilliant and given the state of our shower I'm going to get me some and give them a go.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Tuesday Writing: Building a public profile when you are unpublished

Building a public profile when you are not yet published is a very very wise career move.
Here is the thing; even as an unpublished writer, the very instant you tweet, blog, comment in a forum or on a loop, join a writers group or enter a competition, then you have started to build a public profile.

Yep, that's right, you have already started on your marketing/self-promoting journey.

You might think that because you are unpublished then you don't need social networking- surely your time would be better spent writing the damn book??  Yes, it would, but um, actually how about writing the book AND building the foundation of your future marketing plan, getting your name in front of agents, editors and well known authors, AND having a laugh and connecting with people?

My writing journey, from never-written-a-word to signing my first book contract took nine months.  Great! You think at first glance.

But it wasn't, because I had not had the chance to build my network or public profile.  I had not been part of the industry, heard other peoples stories, got myself some damn fine writing buddies, learned from others mistakes, supported and encouraged fellow writers in their journey, judged other peoples writings (in comps - gah, you learn so MUCH), asked the dumb questions (and be patiently given the right answer), read a call story and dreamed it could be me, read five call stories in a day and wondered why the hell it wasn't my turn yet, or gave up altogether and got guilted, bribed and blackmailed into sitting down and writing just another 100 words, which turned into 200, then 2000, then 95,000.

And not having the time or knowledge to do that, in hindsight, put me at a HUGE disadvantage when it came to getting my name out there and selling my book. There was me and my book, alone and unknown in cyberspace or in the 'real life' writing industry.  It can be very chilly out there.

I have worked hard in the last five years on building myself that network - and hell, I'm not the worlds foremost social networker, not by a long shot (am possibly the crappest twitterer ever), but now I have my support base and value them so incredibly highly.  To be honest, if I published my first novel now, the marketing side would be a whole different scenario.

So, even as an unpublished writer, don't think that starting to market yourself and your work is pointless.  Quite the contrary.  Get onto it now.  If you are not published for another ten years, then you will have a huge support network who are just gagging to give you a boost along.  Every facebook update, comment, every connection can have some future value and you can get busy on your career right now.

On the Downside - Bad Press.
 I have sat in seminars about writing and the web, and when my earnest lecturer gets to the bit about 'being polite in cyberspace,' or the bit where they say that 'one politically incorrect tweet could turn me into the writing equivalent of the Titantic' - I'd roll my eyes and think this is so oooooooooooobvious. Yawn.

But, the other day I read somewhere that in 60% of cases, sarcasm in an email is mis-understood.  I am a sarcastic person (it goes with my dry sense of humour) and I admit that I have pretty much eradicated sarcasm from my online existence.  It was too easy to sound blatantly offensive when I was trying for humour.

Then there was the author who ripped into a reviewer who commented about the proliferation of typos in her self published manuscript.  What was she thinking, he has his right to his opinon, we all thought.  But then I think of That reviewer who Extremely Unfairly gave one of my books a less than glowing review, when it was obvious that they hadn't read past the third chapter.  Oh how I wanted to fire off an email telling them what I thought. How DARE they. AND they didn't even pay for the book. 
But I said nothing and fumed in silence, because I realised it would be an incredibly stupid thing to do.  But for a while there, it was a close run thing.

In another incident, there was a brouhaha about an editor wanting to change a story in an anthology from a homosexual plotline, to heterosexual - because the target audience of the book would be more receptive to a girl and a boy.  Things went awry, people got offended and the argument spilled out onto the internet. 

It happens frequently, and it happens to the nicest people.

So, as you look at building your public profile, its also worthwhile looking at what exactly you want that public profile to look like. How do you want to be perceived online? Have a plan of attack, so that if you have to deal with a troll on your blog or an awful review or just simply being offended (or offending), you react to it in a calm and calculated manner.

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Tuesday Writing: Submitting a Manuscript

Despite spending the last entire week avoiding actually writing anything at all - hey, its school holidays, I have varmints underfoot - my primary form of occupation is being a writer.  What you see on the blog is often my daily 'pages', where I get to do some fun, easy writing, with no thought for character or plot or following a story arc.  I love my blog, have I mentioned that lately??

In the last few years I have purposefully backed away from publishing.  I've still been writing, but the demands of publishing novels and having small children were too much.  I just didn't have the mental energy to do a good job at either.  However, now that the kids are at school,  I've been focussing on getting my stories out there once more.

Why is publishing so demanding?  Because these days to be an author also means you have to be a dedicated self-marketer.  And that can take as much time and energy as writing, if not more.  There is a great post here about the changes for authors in the new digital publishing age.

Lately I've had a few un-published authors ask me about submitting manuscripts and 'how to get published.'  This is what I've been telling them...

First up, I've got really good news.  With the explosion in self-publishing and websites like http://www.smashwords.com, it means that you have options.  If your book is too off-centre for nervous traditional publishers, then you always have the option of self-publishing it and finding your audience yourself.  So, your manuscript is never going to end up forgotten on a hard drive somewhere -  you can upload it to e-book sellers like Amazon under your own steam and charge a price that you decide (even give it away free if you want).

Both my published books are with Samhain Publishing, which publishes in both digital and print. I would happily be published with them again.  It is well worth reading their submission guidelines http://www.samhainpublishing.com Samhain is one of the foremost e-pubs out there and a great place to start.

Another good digital publisher is http://www.carinapress.com Carina is the e-pubbing arm of Harlequin and is interested in a wide variety of genres (romance, horror, fantasy, sci fi etc), Carina are good, but they are e-pub only, and so you wont see your book in print - however, with the huge explosion in the e-reader market, its a viable option.

But I want to see my book in print?  Firstly, with POD (print on demand) technology moving as fast as it is, then its highly likely that eventually a reader will be able to order any electronic book in print version - so it might be worth e-pubbing and then waiting to see what develops.  Second, e-books are forever, print books are in shops for a few months, or up to a year.  After four years I am still getting monthly royalties from the e-versions of my two books - the print royalties dried up yonks ago.

There are a lot of other e-pubs out there on the internet, but be careful and do your research, Samhain and Carina are as good as they get, but a few have turned out to be breathtakingly dodgy.  As always, if it sounds too good to be true, then it probably is.

If you are looking at submitting to a New York publisher, ie the huge, household name type publishers, you will probably need an agent, though now and then they do open for unsolicited submissions.  Information about their submission processes are on their websites, and often you can email your query letter rather than posting - in fact it is becoming more and more rare for publishers to want paper submissions.

A good place to look for agents in the US is www.agentquery.com, just google 'literary agents' to find those in the UK.  There are a handful of Aussie agents, but the Aussie publishing industry is wary of genre fiction at the moment, especially from the unpubbed.   A good place to ask questions of an Aussie agent is http://www.callmyagent.blogspot.com

On a more personal note, remember that the publishing industry is tough and rejection is doled out on a daily basis.  You just have to keep submitting, or take a break if it all gets too much and jump back in when you are ready.  Rejection is not personal, your book just wasn't right for them.  I know its not easy, and I know that it takes huge strength and tenacity to keep going, but it will be worth it.  The sting will pass, and the disappointment of it is not worth stopping altogether.

Good luck, ask if you have questions, am happy to answer anything I can.  If you need to rage and vent, email me; [email protected] - don't vent on a blog (but more on that next Tuesday, when I'll write about the realities of having a public profile, even when you are unpubbed)

Happy writing :)

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Indeed I am the Glam Queen also a small rant including poems

So right now I'm in Hornsby Westfield, in the food hall, hooked up to Maccers free Wifi. Next to me sits a half-eaten egg and bacon McMuffin and a cardboard cup of tea. I have made friends with the one-armed light cleaning man, after a brief skirmish regarding the use of the one powerpoint in the place - and we have discussed his unusually smart 13yo daughter's gift for all things computery.

Yes, and there I was thinking a writing life was all glamorous dark smokey cafes, surly baristas and teetering on the brink of dire poverty :) !! 

Anyhoo, my dear friend Jill sent this poem to me this morning, and I thought I'd post it here, because its awesome...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
a youth she’s content to leave behind….
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to retelling it in her old age….
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
a feeling of control over her destiny.
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to fall in love without losing herself.
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without; ruining the friendship…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that her childhood may not have been perfect…but its over…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
whom she can trust,
whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table…
or a charming inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she can and can’t accomplish in a day…
a month…and a year…

I'll just go all arts-studenty on you for a moment and note that this poem is accredited to Maya Angelou, but, it is in fact an adaption of a list written by Pamela Redmond Satran for a magazine (the poem is much better than the list btw)

I was at the doctor's office yesterday, and made the unfortunate choice of picking up a copy of Cosmo to read.  That magazine is EVIL, just breathtakingly awful.  I haven't read it for years and years and I'd forgotten.  The values and mores it was bleating on about were cringe-making;  over and over again the message it sent was that a woman wasn't quite good enough if she didn't have the right shoes, make up, clothes, boyfriend... I mean WTF??

It reminded me of the line of another much loved poem of mine "Everyone is Free (to Wear Suncreen)" by Mary Smich

"Do not read beauty magazines... they will only make you feel ugly."

 ....

 Everyone is Free (to Wear Suncreen) by Mary Smich
Wear sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. 

I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.



:)

Monday, March 07, 2011

E-Readers Changed My Life & Pancakes

Its Read An E-Book Week - hurray.  It is also shrove Tuesday (or pancake day at our house) tomorrow.  Am trying to decide which event thrills me the most.  I mean, now I get to write a long and possibly faintly ranty post about how awesome my kindle is AND well... pancakes with lemon and sugar, or butter and brown sugar.  FTW.

So, kindles and other e-readers.  Now don't go all 'but I just want to curl up with a REAL book,' on me in the comments.  That just makes me assume that you are old fashioned and afraid of change.  Do you really want me to think that about you, really? 

Why so passionate about e-readers?  After all, my books come in e-form and print-form, so its not like I have some agenda going on.  But it's more what e-readers have done for me.  That is, got me back into reading and introduced me to a whole host of new authors.

Anyone who has small kids will know that the mere thought of browsing in a bookshop is enough to bring on a case of hives.  It just doesn't work.  After Miss 6 showed up I gave up on reading, I never had books in the house and I completely lost touch with it. 

Then I got my kindle. 

Last night I finished Janet Evanovich's latest Stephanie Plum novel (Sizzling Sixteen), was able to go straight to the Amazon bookstore and download Room by Emma Donogue (which, incidentally, I heard about through Goodreads - brilliant website if you are after something to read but not sure where to start).  Did not even have to put one toe outside of my warm snuggy bed.

The other reason I love my kindle?  Book prices and new authors.  Generally they are a lot cheaper than the print versions, and this makes me more confident about having a crack at a new author.  When books are priced at upwards of $20, I am not going to spend the money in case I hate the book by the end of chapter three.  But when its a quarter of the price, well, I'm happier to give it a go. 

Take The Book Thief for example.  Hated it.  The authors voice gave me the absolute icks.  But I'm not fussed that I did hate it, not annoyed that I bought it, it only set me back a few dollars and I'm glad I had the opportunity to look it over even if I didn't finish it.

One final thing about e-readers that not a lot of people know.  They display their text using technology called 'Smart Ink'.  Its not backlit, and therefore nothing like what you see on a computer screen.  It looks just like text on paper.  Now I'm not saying reading with an e-reader is precisely the same as a print book (especially when the slackarse publishers can't format their e-books properly) but it comes really close and is easy on the eyes. 

As an author I can tell you that e-readers are the way of the future for fiction - no not your beautiful cookery type books, but yes the way of fiction.  Watching the publishing industry as I have over the last few years, it is becoming screamingly obvious that publishers have to move to e-books to keep up and to survive.  In Australia we've seen Angus and Robertson go bust in the last few weeks (they owned Aussie Borders btw, so that's why Borders went at the same time) and that says more than anything that bookshops as we know them are not going to be sustainable. 

So jump on that person reading the kindle in the cafe (hell, that's what everyone does to me, am thinking I should start running seminars at T2 in Hornsby) check one out, ask your questions and get into it.  Oh and it doesn't have to be a kindle - there are lots of other brands.

Hello? Are you awake? I get a bit ranty about e-readers.  Sorry about that.

:)

Thursday, February 10, 2011

How To Be A Writer Part 2: Be Obsessed

So, now that you have your sacred writing space taken care of, the next thing you need to do is write. 

This is my favorite mug... (on the other side it has 'Romance writers make novel lovers').

The washing will wait, so will the tidying, and the cleaning, and the cooking.  I put writing first.  I have to put writing first or it will disappear entirely, and the damn book will never be finished.  Then I'm left feeling irritated, frustrated, overwhelmed and cranky.  I am a much nicer person when writing comes first, trust me.

I'm not saying that anyone needs to spend four, five, ten hours a day writing whilst their beautiful children turn into tv zombies and quietly (or not so quietly) starve to death.  But I give myself some time every day to write, and then get on with the chores.  That is being a writer.  Ten minutes of writing on a hellish, out of control day, is going to still makes me feel like I'm getting somewhere.  Not opening my manuscript, but having all the laundry neatly folded, does not move me closer to my goal. 

Being engaged with your writing is also something that'll keep you moving forward. So, if I'm early to pick up the kids, I spend that ten minutes focussing on my plot, plot problems and holes, having ideas, considering character.  I jot down notes, often on the back of old receipts which I then lose and spend fruitless time searching for only to find them three months later on the floor of the car. 

Its not just using down time either - when you are busy doing things that don't really engage your brain, get into the habit of thinking about your work.  I believe it was Agatha Christie who said she got her best ideas when she was doing the washing up.

This all might sound a touch obsessive, but seriously, to push through and get an 100,000 word manuscript written needs a touch of obsession.  I have calculated that to get 100,000 publishable words, I write in excess of 300,000 words (that also has a lot to do with my writing style, and other writers don't work that way).  When you have a busy life (and who doesn't) and conflicting priorities, you need to be very focused on what you want, and how you are going to get it.

You want to be a writer, then you write.

:)

Wednesday, February 09, 2011

How To Be A Writer Part 1: Sacred Space

There is often talk in writerly places that  focus on inspiration and motivation, about creating a sacred space where you work. Here you can come and channel your muse, or muses, or get in the zone, or do whatever floats your boat. 

I often think these people do not have children, a family, or even a small cat.

Here is my current writing space...

If I have somewhere to sit and nobody to bother me then its sacred.

Monday, August 16, 2010

RWA 2010 - A-Day - Rest of Notes Up

I've put up the rest of my notes from the RWAus Conference Authors day at www.toryhayward.com/blog